As a photographer, my number one priority is to create a fun and stress free session where the family leaves happy and smiling. If I’m being honest, I’m usually the most concerned about dad. Yes, those dads (we’ve all had our fair share of them). Yet, some times it’s a child who comes to a session on heightened alert, overstimulated, and out of their comfort zone.
Since I’ve had experience working with children on the autism spectrum or who are neurodivergent, I wanted to share a few tips that will hopefully help you create a successful session with your own clients.
*Please note that out of respect and privacy for my clients, the images in this blog do not include children on the spectrum.
TIP 1. CREATE A CALM ENVIRONMENT
I come into my sessions “reading the room,” meaning I quickly evaluate the client’s disposition, what the family dynamics are, and maybe even who doesn’t want to be there. As photographers we are all doing this but if you’re coming to a session where you know there is a family member with sensory issues, be a calming force. Depending where your session is, the child can already be overstimulated. If it’s windy, if there’s grass or sand that is touching them, if they’re wearing clothing they typically don’t- these all are things that can heighten their sensitivity. Come into your session calmly.
TIP 2. GIVE SIMPLE DIRECTIONS
I do feel like this goes across the board with children in general but it’s even more important if the child is on the spectrum. If you need to set up a pose, give mom and dad more explanation before engaging the child(ren). Once mom and dad are set up then get on the child’s level and with very clear directions tell them what you want from them. “Stand right here with mom.” “Hold dad’s hand.” “Let’s go for a walk.”
TIP 3. ASK THE PARENTS QUESTIONS
Don’t be afraid to ask questions! I once had a session with an adult child who was completely nonverbal. I had just met him and his family so I was unaware of all those nonverbal clues that his family had years to understand. At one point, he looked distressed so I asked mom, “Is he okay? Do you think this is creating stress?” She responded with “No, actually I think he’s quite content right now!” If you’re not sure, ask! If a family has a child on the spectrum or a medical condition/health concerns, I can assure you they researched a photographer thoroughly. They have invited you into their space for how ever long that session is which means there’s a level of trust and safety. Nothing speaks to a parent more than someone who is genuinely trying to create a supportive environment for their child.
TIP 4. ASK FOR PERMISSION
Some of the best smiles come from tickles but if a child has sensory issues, tickles or unwanted touching can guide your session south very quickly. I often ask “Can mom give you tickles?” If it’s a yes, they’re already smiling (get that shot). If the answer is no, you move on without incident.
TIP 5. MEET THEM WHERE THEY’RE AT
If a child has zero interest in you, don’t force it, especially eye contact. You may not get that perfect “Christmas card” photo with everyone looking but the trade off is a smooth session. I’ve had sessions where I just say, “Hey, Billy isn’t feeling it so just engage with him, love on him, sit with him.” and then I get those shots.
Sometimes it takes creative questions to get them to engage with you. One of my favorites is asking if there’s a crab or fish (insert whatever animal) in my camera and most often they will look. Get that shot and move on! If all they want to do is explore, explore with them and send mom and dad to explore with them as well.
I hope these tips help set you up for successful sessions. It is important to remember that no matter how prepared we are and how much experience and education we have under our belt, some times sessions just do not go as planned. Communication and realistic expectations are key! You got this!
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Hi, I’m Carly! I’m a family photographer in Boise, Idaho. I view my job behind the camera as a documenter, providing you with a freeze-frame of your current chapter in life. I love being able to capture genuine + spontaneous moments.